Remembering Friends

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven… (‭Eccles‬ ‭3‬:‭1‬ KJV)

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I wasn’t planning to write this particular post this week, but sometimes we find our plans changed. Sometimes a day may bring news that shocks us to our core. So is life. So is God.

I have to admit that I’m not always the best at receiving change. I’m an organizer, very task-oriented, and a very keep-to-my-calendar type of person, even in casual settings. If I could plan texts I receive in a day, I would. That’s not good, is it? Don’t judge.

The biggest change to grapple, I think we all could agree, is when we find ourselves suddenly without someone. When death happens, that’s it. Someone isn’t here earthly any longer. When my grandmother’s days were limited and we knew she was dying, I had to wrap my mind around that moment that would come, when we’d receive the news that that’s it. It’s over. Done. She’s not coming back. It’s hard.

So I find myself as of the writing of this post realizing the recent deaths of friends. Change again. Though they weren’t family and though I didn’t see them daily, they’re still not here. Someone is without them, and I know they’re hurting.

In the midst of the heaviness felt when death comes, I pray for those who remain. For comfort, yes, but mostly, that an acknowledgement of God will come – to honor Him in believing that His will is supreme, and to thank Him for keeping His promise to those now gone.

Our times are ordered by God. No one arrives or leaves until He wills it. But before the leaving happens (and we never know when it will), love those He’s given you. Enjoy them, appreciate them. Remember them.

For Clyde, Mable, Shepard.

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Balance

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Each and every morning when I realize there’s still breath in my body, I give thanks for the blessing of life and the gift of a new day. The clock sounds at 6:00, and as soon as I can shake off sleep and the night’s dreams, I pray, acknowledge God, and the day begins. I review the calendar, release it to God, and aim to stay where His spirit leads. Though some days bring more to do than others, my goal is not to actually do, but to be.

One word that I have taken out of my vocabulary, in order to focus on being, is busy. It has become, seemingly, an all-too-common descriptor of our days, and even more sadly, of our lives…

What has happened to living that makes it so busy? What are we choosing to do with our lives that crowds out the important things, the things that matter? Friends, we’re not designed to take on the world. WE CAN’T DO EVERYTHING. Even in the Blogging 101 course I took, team leaders had to respond to fellow bloggers who found themselves “busy” and behind on the daily assignments.

Life requires balance. Whatever your current life path, you must MAKE time for the basics. You must make time for prayer and reflection. You should never be so busy at work that you don’t have time for lunch. Shut off the computer, put the pen down, and EAT. Your children don’t need to be involved in every extracurricular activity known to man. They need time for homework, and they need time with you – at dinner, enjoying a good book, movie, or even a talk.

Listen to your own life – what are you passionate about? What are you called to do? Then focus on that. Give, but only from the heart. Quality time with family and friends should be just that, QUALITY time, not rushed time.

I have a friend who often says she’s SUPER busy! Always on the run… I can’t imagine. Unsurprisingly, I don’t hear from her anymore.

Friends, let’s truly and finally stop the glorification of busy. It’s not healthy, and frankly, it’s not attractive. Take out what doesn’t belong, what’s “too small” for you now. Make space for the true things, the things that fit. At the end of the day, your body and spirit will thank you for it.

This is the day which the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it. (Psalms 118:24 KJV)

How have you found and now practice BALANCE?

43 Reasons Why Life Has Been Good

March 16 marked my 43rd birthday! So blessed to see this milestone, and it was one for me!image

It’s not Grateful Friday here on New Day, but I want to share 43 things for which I’m thankful, that have brought me from there to here, and that have made the journey worth it:

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Family

The gift of words and writing

March 15 – the day my Tony and I were married

Ratchford Road

School days

Friends

All the days that taught me hard life lessons

The realization of God’s presence in my life

Work

Turning 30, because it marked the point when I truly began to focus on being me

The pages in my journals

Church

The Golden Girls

Summer Fridays

IHOP

The privilege to vote for the nation’s first black president – #BOPOTUS

Sunsets

Sweet potato pie

Genesis 1:1

John 3:16

Jeremiah 29:11

iNation

Tar Heel Nation

Christmas

Sisters in Christ who’ve blessed my spirit in so many ways

PRAISE!Magazine, which I founded and published from 1996-2003

Simplicity

Peace

Help

Max Lucado books

Mornings

The touch of my grandmother’s hand as she was transitioning to Heaven

What was

What is

What is to come

The Word of God.

The Son of God.

The Spirit of God.

The Love of God.

Larry and Brenda who birthed me physically.

God the Founder, the Father, who birthed me spiritually, who called me to be His.